Re-Framing Ten Old Reality Commandments
I’ll launch this blog with reframing ten commandments. Not “The” Ten Commandments, but ten assumptions concerning loyalty, motivation, and commitment that have been conditioned into us in the old reality but need to be re-framed in the light of the irrevocable unfolding of the new psychological employment contract between employer and employee. As is the case with all shifts in ingrained values, accepting some of these new commandments can be an against-the-grain experience for some people. Nonetheless, I believe the shift is irrevocable and the sooner we begin to live by the new commandments the better we and our organizations will be.
First Commandment: Thou Shalt be Paternalistic to Thy Employees. In order to insure a dependable work force employers should have a strategy to provide as many services and programs as possible that tie the employees’ sense of purpose and social identity to the organization.
First Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt not Place Thy Social and Emotional Eggs in the Organizational Basket – It Shalt get Dropped and Thine Eggs Shalt be Broken. Paternalism sends the wrong message. It leads to unhealthy dependency and when, inevitably, downsizing happens employees who overly rely on their organization for social and emotional support are set up for layoff survivor sickness.
Second Commandment: Thou Shalt Trust that the Organization Will Take Care of You. Loyal employees trust that the organization will take care of them if they meet performance standards.
Second Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt Take Care of Thyself. By now employees should know that it is impossible for organizations to control conditions so that they will have the necessary resources to take care of their employees over the long term.
Third Commandment: Thou Shalt Not Look for Another Job While Still Employed. Loyal employees don’t look for jobs while still employed.
Third Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt Continually Network and Keep Thy Skills Marketable. In the new reality, everyone, including the manager, is encouraged to continually network and cultivate outside options. External networking and keeping skills relevant to the needs of the market place are not indexes of loyalty, but of common sense.
Fourth Commandment: Thou Shalt Make Employees Dependent on Thy Organization. In order to control and direct employees, managers need to structure a long term, dependency relationship.
Fourth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt not be Seduced into Dependence. People who remain organizations because they choose to be there, rather than because they have to be there, are much more creative, productive, and less susceptible to survivor symptoms.
Fifth Commandment: Thou Shalt Motivate Thy Employees by Bestowing Rewards and Delivering Punishments. Managers provide external motivation by manipulating rewards and punishment.
Fifth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt Provide an Environment That Lets Thy Employees Motivate Themselves. Employees are capable of self-motivation and this internal motivation is much more powerful than the externally imposed variety. In the new reality, the primary motivators are interesting work and the acquisition of valuable skills.
Sixth Commandment: Thou must always be tough and brutally honest. Managers must be tough minded, objective, brutally honest, and never let feelings and emotions distract them from getting the job done. “Touchy feely” management does not work in the “real world.”
Sixth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt be Empathetic and Caringly Candid. Feelings and emotions are the currency of the realm when employees are gridlocked by fear, anxiety, and depression. That’s the “real” real world. Truth telling is mandatory but honesty should not be brutal. Caring Candor is helpful; brutal honesty is destructive.
Seventh Commandment: Thou Shalt Promise a Long Term Employment Relationship. Employees need the promise of a long term, stable employment relationship. Organizations provided it once, and they will be able to provide it again.
Seventh Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt not Expect Long Term, Uninterrupted, Employment Continuity with a Single Organization. The last thing employees need is a promise that things will return to normal. It is a promise that employers won’t be able to keep and when, inevitably, it is violated, management credibility will suffer.
Eighth Commandment: Thou Shalt Covet Permanent, Long Term, Employees.
Permanent, fulltime, long term employees are the glue that holds organizations together.
Eighth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt Not Keep the Wrong People for the Wrong Reasons. Like it or not, in the new reality all employees are “temps.” We need to find new glue. That doesn’t mean that employees won’t stay for a long time. When employers provide good work and empowering leadership, talented employees will stay for the right reasons and they will tend to stay for as long as those two conditions are met. It is much more hazardous to organizational health when employees stay for the wrong reasons: because they are afraid to leave and have no marketable external skills.
Ninth Commandment: Thou Shalt Not Allow Employees to Whine and Bitch. Whining and bitching is bad and managers need to stop it.
Ninth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt Facilitate Employee Venting. “Whining” and “bitching”, are prejudicial words and only serve to reinforce norms that preclude employees from the crucial task of externalizing their disabling feelings. Properly facilitated, venting repressed feelings is an exceptionally powerful managerial tool.
Tenth Commandment: Thou Shalt be in Control at All Times. In times of organizational trauma and turmoil, it is even more important that those in authority maintain an aura of stern unflappability.
Tenth Commandment Reframed: Thou Shalt be Freed by Unmasking Thine own Vulnerability. In order to be relevant to the needs of their employees and reduce their own stress, managers give themselves permission to “own” and express their personal vulnerability. That reaffirms their humanity and frees up their ability to form authentic empathetic relationships with their employees.